We’ve all been there. We’ve either witnessed it or have personally shared the anxiety of working through conflict using digital communication. With life running at the pace of email, texting, Facebook and Twitter, solving conflict on these mediums has become almost as natural as breathing. But is this always the best way to go?
In a work relationship with my boss, I once inadvertently stirred up a fire over a lengthy resignation over email. My heart was big, but that mistake was bigger! In my marriage, I’ve had my share of failed communication where we nitpicked over words in a text. “What did you mean when you said…” Or stewing to myself, How come she doesn’t answer me right away?
I’ve caused conflict before by writing opinionated political posts through Facebook and Twitter. And then thought afterwards, was that really edifying? Or was I trying to indirectly “respond” to someone I highly disagreed with? Should I have responded to that person privately, instead of “publicly”?
There’s no doubt that today’s digital culture can put us at risk to make blunders when we work through conflict. It’s difficult to know how much to share with another person over the Internet and what to save for personal conversation. In fact, many of our problems are compounded because we don’t use restraint in digital communication.
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