Righteous irritation is a ploy to manipulate and shift guilt while maintaining the posture that you are the one who has been wronged. Righteous irritation, which is actually self-righteous irritation, is delivered in a voice that thinly masks the irritation on the inside. For example:
“If it is really important, I’ll do that for you. I wouldn’t want to bother you.”
“I am really tired, but I will find a way to get this done. You go ahead and relax.”
“Do we really have to talk about this now? I have a lot on my mind at the moment, but we can talk now if you really need to.”
“Sweetheart, this really better be important. You know how busy I am.”
“I noticed that your room is still a mess. Do I have to do it for you? Sorry, I was irritated. I know you will get it straightened up eventually.”
Righteous irritation has the additional goal of giving the appearance of nobility. But, in the end, righteous irritation is really just a sophisticated form of self-pity. This is a self-serving technique that attempts to shield you from the demands of being a servant.
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