One common problem that parents face is attempting to explain their decisions to their children. The logic for explanations runs something like this: If I can just get my children to understand the reason for my direction, then they will be more likely to follow my instruction. While this may sound like solid reasoning, it is not. Children are not in need of lengthy, compelling explanations. What they are in need of is the understanding that God must be obeyed. This is true regardless of the ages of your children.
In young children and toddlers, lengthy explanations cloud the real issue. Obedience is a response to God’s authority. Biblical obedience is not a matter of winning a debate. Young children must be trained to obey right away, to do exactly as they are told, and to obey with a good attitude.
Children from 6-12 must be encouraged to obey because they know this pleases God. This type of training will yield a conscience that is sensitive to the things of God.
It doesn’t take much insight to realize that teenagers and long explanations about why they should obey don’t go well together. Obedience with teenagers is to primarily be focused on helping them see the value of following God because they love him. The teenager does have more autonomy than younger children.
Here are two helpful passages to help place things in focus:
A fool finds no pleasure in understanding
but delights in airing his own opinions. Proverbs 18:2
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