A marriage counselor in Minnesota is encouraging couples to spend time together, the StarTribune reports. Findings are that spending at least 5 1/2 hours a week interacting with your spouse can strengthen your marriage.
Now this is interesting. Spending time together strengthens a relationship. That is vague and positive enough to be in a fortune cookie. And maybe it seems so intuitive that it’s unworthy for print. But here’s the catch: there’s more to this spouse-interaction than mere time. The counselor explains, “I mean talking to each other, really paying attention to each other, the way you did when you were dating.”
The way you did when you were dating.
It’s the same observation made by Justin Buzzard in his book, Date Your Wife. He writes, “Most men think the mission ends after they marry the woman they love, that the most exciting and rewarding work is over.” Marriage is somehow viewed as the destination, the payoff, the final credits after “the beauty is rescued.” But this view can only exist within a cultural straightjacket. The Bible tells us different.
[Read the rest of the article at Desiring God.]